‘So, you’re single…’
How many times have I seen conversation change when that realization hits the person on other side? Possibly too many.
Am I still human and not deformed in any way? Yes. So, I chose This? Yes, in a sense.
I choose to celebrate my singleness.
The darker side
I know some people expect loneliness to be top of the list when I bring up the dark side to singleness. Not this time. One can be lonely even in relationships. The reason for this is, in my opinion, that we weren’t created to be satisfied only with one very close or a handful of close relationships. God made us- yes I went there- and He made us to seek more (No one less than His Fabulous Self) and to seek good for others. So for me, the dark side is realizing how easily selfishness in everything really does come to me. It could be said that I am quite proficient at this.
I am a work in progress and I like things my way. I live alone and don’t have anyone to clean up after (except the fish, but that is another story) or to make me clean up. Do I get lonely sometimes? Yes. Do I get cabin fever? Oh dear me yes. Long weekends are the worst and best things that happen to the business world. But they are no fun at all if nothing social is happening.
I am not in a relationship for a few reasons:
1. I don’t want it to be for me, about me, and only on my terms.
2. I have reasonable and high standards – heck someone died to save me once and I don’t want to ignore that.
3. I have been learning and growing and enjoying being alone.
I also love children, this inspires people to comment about my marital status (or, unfortunately lack of, in the eyes of some). I have a new baby sister and love the excuse to read children’s books (seriously, how good is Peppa Pig!) with her. I melt when she smiles. I don’t think I am ‘clucky’. For goodness sake, I AM NOT A CHICKEN.
I am single and I am fabulous, thank-you very much. 🙂